This can apply to a couple that starts a new relationship as well as to a couple that has been together for a while and wants to open the relationship.
It's rather a bad idea, when...
- your life is changing a lot currently, like moving to a new town or even country, a child is on it’s way or there are big job changes ahead
- emotional turmoil is going on for one, both or more partner(s), like after a loss of a family member, friend or pet
- your relationship isn’t working well at the moment
- either one of you is going through an emotional or stressful time outside or inside the relationship
- the foundation of the relationship still needs to be build, either because it’s a new one or it’s been shaken up recently
Questions you and your partner can ask yourself:
- Is this enriching our relationship currently?
- Or am I running away from problems, I am not ready to face?
- Am I aware that this is a new playground with lots of trial and error, that needs strong communication, trust and the willingness to forgive? As well as facing the emotions that will show up in the process.
What is your experience on bad ideas for starting a poly relationship?
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